Jul 31

Jul 31 Be Brave: Create the Support You Need to Succeed

Hi, I’m Liz Moser, a Mayo Clinic and National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach. This week my mastermind group received a communication from one of our four members. She sent the three of us an email last Friday saying while she appreciated her time with the group and benefited highly from the year and a half with us, she is ready to move on. Also, she wouldn’t be attending our zoom meeting the following Monday.

I responded to her and the group that I was behind her 100% in whatever is right for her. I asked if she would allow our group to have a final call with her: the chance to celebrate her and our initial group of 4 members. I think that this closure call will happen, which will be beautiful.

This woman who wants to leave our mastermind group and all of us myself included are in charge of creating the support we need. And sometimes it looks like exiting a group.

Meanwhile, I need to remind myself that her actions are out of my control, and I need to stay focused on what I can influence.

I’m in control of my nutritional habits,

I’m in control of my healthy daily routines,

And

Ultimately, I’m in control of my level of support.

I can’t control people or outcomes, but I’m in charge of who I engage with.

Right, so if her leaving our group feels like a vacuum in my crew, I need to get proactive and bridge that gap. All I can do is get in touch with someone, and again, the outcome of reaching out is out of my control.

In generating the support with other people, we open ourselves to emails like my mastermind group received last Friday, where the next right step for a member is leaving.

I now can choose to feel rejected and hurt or happy for my friend that she’s doing what’s best for her. I’m opting for the latter and going a step further by saying it takes bravery to risk hurting our feelings when following her path. So, kudos to her.

As I move forward with the remaining three members of our group, we will have to decide if we ask a fourth person to join, and If so, then who will that be.

Over and above what my mastermind group decides I need to discern what level support I need. Right, I need that level of connection where my healthy daily habits and routine stay on track and thrive. Not all my efforts will be fruitful. Not every relationship will feel deep and meaningful, but to feel supported, we need a community. Genuine engagement with others takes honesty and vulnerability. Being honest and vulnerable takes bravery, and that’s how we thrive.

In sum,

It's up to you to discern how much and what kind of support you need.

Be proactive in creating the support you desire.

Sometimes you create your support by reaching out, and sometimes by leaving a group, pulling back or refocusing.

And,

Creating your support either by reaching out or leaving a group takes a willingness to feel vulnerable. Both reaching out and moving on is an act of bravery.

I’m Liz Moser, a Mayo Clinic and National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, but more importantly, a fellow wellness seeker just like you. Thanks for watching this video and letting me share my thoughts on being brave while creating the connection and support we need to reach our health and wellness goals.